Friday, February 17, 2012

Do Online Friends Count?

Recently (well it was awhile ago but this post has been brewing in my head recently) I've read two other blog posts about this topic, specifically here and here.

If you knew me "in real life" you would know that I am an introvert. It's pretty apparent and I actually try to avoid certain social situations from time to time. I also don't like talking on the phone unless it is with Mike or my mom.

It's not like I don't have friends, but I have my select group of friends that I like to hang out with.

Having this blog and joining twitter recently is starting to change that, I reach out to people more often than I normally would.

Some of my internet friends are becoming real friends, like when Mike and I met Rena and her boyfriend Stefan!


Rena, we need a better picture together next time!

Since then we have asked Rena to be on our Seneca 7 relay team and we are going to run in a half marathon together.

I'm also running in a relay with Ali in about a month and I can't wait!

And just tonight I was having a twitter conversation with C, someone who I have never met, about the possibility of running in the Cape Cod Marathon relay (what's with all the relays?) with me and Mike and I think we are going to do it!

There are so many other people who I want to meet and I hope that someday this will come true, but do you all count as my friends without ever having met? Yes, I would say that you do.

Not many of my friends are interested in running and I don't think any of my friends are interested in running AND blogging. As a result, I don't really get to enjoy this sport that I love so much with them (but I am going to go to Turbo Kick with my friend Marissa on Monday since I promised!)

Therefore, keep on being my internet friends and let's enjoy this sport we love so much together! And hopefully someday we will get to meet in real life.

How do you feel about internet friends? Anyone semi-close to Rochester interested in a blogger meetup sometime?

28 comments:

  1. My oldest daughter laughs at me because I call all of my cyber friends my 'friends'. Thats the way I think of everyone. Ive been lucky enough to meet many and i too will be running a relay in June with 11 women I haven't yet met IRL. Ha!

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    1. Haha, I do the same thing with Mike. He always laughs at me since I talk about all of you like you are my friends in real life. He catches on pretty quick though!

      Such fun, I can't wait to do our relays!

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  2. I'm with you - not many of my real life friends are into running or blogging so I am glad to have blog buddies for that!
    :)

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    1. I agree Vanessa! I'm glad you wrote about this topic too :)

      I try not to annoy my friends too much, but I think one of my officemates (who is also my friend, she was in my wedding) hears me talk about running the most, but she is nice and puts up with it!

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  3. I just had a meetup with some Denver gal bloggers and it was so much fun :) I worried that it wouldn't be like it is online, but it totally was, so it was a lot of fun!

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    1. I know that is the one thing, people can sometimes be a lot different than they are online. I do tell my officemate though that I doubt any of you are creepers since who has the time to go running and write a blog about it? It would be too difficult to fake!

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  4. I'm interested. And it totally counts. I say I'm doing a relay with my friend Jamie. The meet up is super fun! I knew we get along from reading your blog.

    On a random note, have you noticed that a lot of runners are named Ali?

    Oh and we need a picture during the day time.

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    1. Haha, yea I've definitely noticed a lot of running bloggers named Ali. I have to say "Ali from NYC" or "Ali from Canada" so that Mike is clear on who I am talking about! I'm glad that Jamie isn't very common!

      We're definitely going to have a lot of pictures from the relay! I can't wait!

      Oh and if other people are interested we should definitely set up a meet up!

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  5. It completely counts!!! Blogging has been a great way to connect with other runners around the world. It's fabulous that you are meeting up with so many lately and doing races with them!

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    1. I know I'm so excited! I wish I could have done the relay with you, did Sarah tell you she asked me and Mike too? Such a small world!

      We are probably going to do a race in Maine in August, so let me know if there are any that you are doing. I really wish we could do Beach to Beacon but we can't this year, but definitely next year!

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  6. I absolutely believe that internet "friends" can become as close as "real life" friends (and meetups just firm it up). I've been "friends" online with a group of women since the fall of 2000 when we were all pg with our first (all due May 2001). Our children will be 11 this spring and we've had a few meetups, but mostly just corresponded through a group web site. We've shared a lot of the ups and downs (and subsequent pgs and pg losses) of life along the way. Some have fallen away (like I believe all friendships sometimes do), but I consider them all as friends.

    Since starting my blogging/triathlon journey last summer, I've felt the love and support of so many new "friends". I know it helps me stay motivated and focused plus provides such a wealth of knowledge. I doubt I'll make it to the east coast anytime soon, but I hope to meet some of my other blog friends sooner than later. And of course, I have a spare bedroom for any of them who wants to see Missouri's capitol. :)

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    1. That's great you had a group of friends to go through your pregnancy with!

      Missouri is definitely a possibility for us sometime in the future!

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  7. I agree with you - online friends are real friends. maybe not every single one, there are different stages to each relationship, but they most certainly develop like 'real friendships' so why wouldn't we call each other friends??

    I think it's a lot like online dating. I love it! I have yet to meet any bloggers from this community but when I blogged back in the day we used to have meet ups all the time and I LOVED hanging with bloggers - they just get each other :)

    I guessed you were introverted ;) but don't worry extroverts and introverts make great pairs!

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    1. I was thinking the same thing! It's like online dating, but for friends! It is fun to finally meet people face to face though.

      Extroverts and introverts do make good pairs, Mike is an extrovert.

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  8. I totally agree with you. My blogger friends get me more than many of my real friends. My real friends don't run or blog and both of those things are a big part of my life. I am looking forward to some day meeting some of my blogging friends. Great post!

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    1. I feel the same way sometimes, I think my real friends have a harder time talking about the things I like to talk about compared to my online friends. We all share a common interest, not that my real friends and I don't, but running (and triathlons soon) are a huge part of my life. Running is defining who I am more than my profession, etc.

      I hope we get to meet someday, Mike and I love hiking! We always go hiking when we visit my parents in Maine.

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  9. I am similar in that I don't have a lot of friends that are into running so I love connecting with people online that share my interest. I love that you are meeting some of the people you have connected with on the internet.

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    1. It's definitely fun to meet other people! There's someone for everyone out there and it is nice to know that if I visit an area I can usually find someone who is from there.

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  10. I hear you! Most of my friends don't really seem to understand/care much for distance running and blogging has been so nice to connect with other people who "get it." :) I might be able to come for a meet up depending on when or else maybe I'll have to register for Skunk Cabbage. :)

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    1. I haven't really decided on when but if more people are interested we can try to find a time when we can all meet up, or we could meet halfway since most people I'm thinking of aren't even from Rochester!

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  11. I think it's the running community in general. The more I meet the happier I am. I was extremely intimidated about getting to know other runners until I joined my first running group (inferiority complex as a new runner). I have yet to meet another runner that has not been friendly and ready to talk and run together - and is there any better way to make an instant friend then by running an hour together? I'm pretty new to this blog/Twitter things but I love to be able to connect with so many other like-minded people! Love Rena, she cracks me up!

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    1. I agree the running community is pretty amazing! There are always a few people out there who aren't as nice but in general everyone is great!

      I love Rena too!

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  12. Wish I were close by! The runner blogger community is amazing and so supportive!

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    1. I know it's too bad! But if we are ever in your area we should definitely meet up or vice versa!

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  13. I totally agree with you on so many levels. I am more of an introverted person and prefer to hang out in smaller groups of close friends. I turned to blogging when I was increasing my running goals and none of my closer friends are runners and could really care less to discuss training plans. Hmmm.....

    Over time I found many like-minded blogging and running friends who I care about just as much as my land-based friends. Really, why do cyber-friends need a clarification. A friend is a friend am I am glad to have found a wonderful, supportive, running community online when I couldn't outside my back door on land. :)

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    1. I'm glad there are other introverts out there in the blogging world!

      It is nice to have a community that you can turn to for advice and to just have a good time with! There are so many people all over the country and world that I have connected with and that is pretty amazing!

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  14. Weird. I swear my Google Reader is not importing your post updates anymore!

    I totally get where you're coming from with this one. Having moved away from my family to a new place I've felt very isolated down in California so it's nice to be able to share a common interest with others. Even if they are located on the opposite side of the nation!

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    1. Hmm that's weird! Hopefully it will fix itself. I sometimes notice issues with my dashboard and then it causes problems with Google Reader.

      It would be really hard to move away! At least I went through that process awhile ago, when I went to college, and then we just decided to stay in Rochester.

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