Wednesday, November 30, 2011

One is the Loneliest Number

Especially when it comes to running.

Because of our schedules (I worked 9am to 5pm and he's working 5pm to 10pm), Mike and I had to run at different times today. I ran after work in the dark and the cold. I'm glad that it wasn't snowing at least. I wanted to try to run fast but my legs didn't really seem to want to cooperate.

Lap 1 - 10:15 pace
Lap 2 - 10:31 pace
Lap 3 - 10:26 pace
Lap 4 - 13:17 pace (alternating between walking and running for .85 miles)

Total Time: 44:33
Average Pace: 11:08 minutes per mile

I did 4 miles total and I was able to run 3.15 without stopping or walking! I used the last .85 as a cool down and walked/ran.

You would think that I would enjoy running by myself. Part of the reason that I loved swimming was that it gave me a lot of time to "myself". Yea, I had teammates in the same lane as me but 85% of practice we were swimming, which makes it a little challenging to have a conversation. I used swimming as a way to get rid of the stresses of my day and contemplate a variety of topics. Sometimes I would just zone out, hey it happens!

But with running, I love to run with someone else. A specific someone else: Mike.

Doing anything with Mike gets "two thumbs up"

Of course, we started running to get in shape but for me it was something we could do together. I never once wanted to do the Couch-to-5K program by myself, I wanted to do it with Mike.

We trained for our first 5K, 10K and half marathon together. We've done most of our training runs together, with the exception of when I have been injured and tonight. Sure we've run with my mom and Mike's mom, which was nice, but if I could only pick one person to run with the rest of my career the choice would be easy. Mike is my partner in more ways than just in our relationship.

Even though we don't race "together", we run in the same races. I don't even want to sign up for a women only race because Mike wouldn't be able to run in it with me! I'm sure he would make a great cheerleader, though!

Starting the race together, before we go our separate ways

At times I feel bad that he has to run slower when he is with me, but I think that we still bring out the best in each other. He motivates me to do better, I have to if I want to keep running with him, and I am so proud when he excels!

We don't talk much when we run, but we are communicating in so many other ways. I listen to his shoes hit the pavement, his breathing and follow him to where he wants to take us on our training run. Running is our "us" time and I cherish every moment.

Could I ever run with other people without Mike there? Sure. Is that my preference? No.

Do I ever want to join a team? As of right now, no. Let's be honest here, would Mike and I get to run together if we did? No, because he is faster than me. While running teams may be beneficial and necessary for some people, I don't think it is a good fit for us. Maybe in the future I will change my mind but I'm not holding my breath in the meantime.

Mike and I are going to run together, swim together and bike together until we don't want to do this anymore. We will support each other when we struggle or are injured and we will celebrate when we achieve our goals and cross finish lines that we never imagined that we could.

So, why do I run?

I run so that I can be with my husband, my partner, my best friend.

Everything else, in my mind, is trivial.

Why do you run?


  1. I run because I like the way that it makes me feel.

    As for running alone, I dislike it. But I have no choice. My bf can't keep up with me on mileage or speed. And none of my friends run.

  2. Rena - come run with us! I would love to run with you sometime!

  3. Cute post! It's great that the two of you can share a common hobby...and not want to kill each other afterwards. :) But in all seriousness, it's nice not only to share your love of running with each other, but also to be able to see each other grow through the whole process. That's what's important.

    RM and I don't run together although we used to way back in the day. I told him I couldn't be seen with him if he continued to sport spandex around the 'hood.

  4. Kristin - haha your comment made me laugh! I'm glad that Mike doesn't sport spandex, yet!

  5. I love that you guys run together so much. I refused to run with my husband for the longest time because he is so much faster than me. For our one year anniversary my gift to him was to run 5 miles with me. (Cheapo over here). I loved it and we have run many more times since then!

  6. Love this! I wish Dan would join me on my runs, but it's just not his thing and I wouldn't force anyone to do something (especially running) if they don't want to. But running by yourself does get lonely.

    Oh we went on a cruise to Alaska for our honeymoon and LOVED it. This will be our third cruise! We're going to Europe, which neither one of us has been to: London, Barcelona, Cannes/Monte Carlo, Florence/Pisa, & Rome!

  7. Love this and totally understand. When Chad and I manage to work around our kids' schedule and run together it's awesome. The biggest obstacle is that he likes to run late afternoon or early evening and I'm a morning person. The earlier the better.